7 ways to a better relationship

“Relationships are Hard Work”

–by Kenneth “KJ” Jackson

(@KJuelzNYC)







All types of relationships are hard work. Whether it is father/daughter, mother/son, or boyfriend/girlfriend, they all take some type of effort to help them grow beautifully. Now let us just focus on the boyfriend/girlfriend aspect of a relationship. I have a few of my female friends come up to me all the time and ask me why their significant others seems to ignore them, and not pay attention to them after like a month of dating. I stated to them that the “honeymoon” period was over and now reality is setting in. One of them in particular can’t seem to get past 5 months with every boyfriend she has been with. I told her it is because she always gives up everything in a relationship in the first week. You want to be respected in a relationship ladies, do not give up everything you have to offer in a week. I know that sex has become so desensitized here in the United States, but does that not mean that you need to give up your own self-respect and control. I always hear people say that sex is a relationship and without that you have nothing. Are you kidding me? Sex does not pay the bills (for those of you in relationships where you both live together). Yes, sex is absolutely a part of a relationship with your significant other, but it is not the end to all means.

You are wondering why you sitting at home and you trying to spend time with your man and he does not come over, why should he? You guys have been together 3 weeks and he has already had sex with you, taken your car, you help pay his bills, cook for him, and buy him whatever he needs. There is no reason for him to spend time with you. He has nothing else to anticipate in that relationship. Now this is not all guys, I am talking about a specific type of guy.

To my gentleman, I know it may be hard to stay faithful in a relationship. You have no idea how many guys that I know that just cannot stay faithful. So why get into a relationship? You do not have to lock one down and keep doing your thing. That is wrong. Gentleman need to remember to be respectful when they are in relationships. We were all born from a female, you would not want someone giving your mother or sister a hard time in a relationship, then you shouldn’t give a hard time either.



Relationships are tough. However, you can make them work with “K.J.’s 7 Ways to a Better Relationship”:

1. Make sure you pick a significant other who is of the same socio-economic status as you. Which means don’t date the drug dealer, when you are about to graduate with a Bachelors Degree.


2. Make time for each other.


3. Find new and improved ways to spice up your relationship (i.e. salsa dancing, or putting a pole in the bedroom).


4. Tell each other that you love each other every single day and night.


5. Travel the country or world together, take vacations.


6. Respect each other, and yourselves.


7. The most important rule I follow in a relationship is to COMMUNICATE. It is so very important to communicate with one another. Do not hold stuff in, however, do not be disrespectful when you have a disagreement with one another. This is the true way to keep a relationship alive.


If you have your own rules that I did not put up here, give me your feedback!